Today we live in a society that considers itself sexually liberated very open about all things concerning sex. A paradox I have found with this is that I see very few couples who actually talk together about their sex life. Our culture generates magazine or blog articles on “12 new ways to please your man” and “14 new ways to drive your woman wild” yet takes us further and further away from “great sex.” If one of these “top 10 ways” really worked, there wouldn’t be a need for the next magazine issue or blog post touting a new set of ten or twelve or whatever number of ways to do whatever. Would it?
If I were to pick out twenty couples and invite them to a workshop on sex and ask them to recommend a good book or article on sex that we could reference during the workshop, what do you think they would you say? Something from a men’s or women’s magazine or another best-selling book? Very few, if any, people would say, “The Bible.” In fact, if I announced to the twenty couples at the beginning of the workshop that our text would be the Bible, I am pretty sure I would hear a collective groan! Maybe some would politely remain quiet but silently groan nevertheless. The most common question would be why? Why the Bible?
Let’s back up. Somewhere in the events of creation, God created sex. Now think through this with me. Who gave a man and a woman their sex organs? Who designed the sensitive nerves that provide incredible pleasure? Who made us so that in sex we fit perfectly together? God. He made man and woman and had this great idea about sex. It wasn’t supposed to be something dirty or nasty, but beautiful. I think God was very excited to give us that gift and to see us receive it.
There’s a book in the Bible called the Song of Solomon, which gives us a really sexy picture of a husband and his wife enjoying each other. Twice the man and woman make love. One time he starts at her head and moves down her body; another time he starts at her feet and moves up her body. The Bible says they enjoyed each other all night long.
Sex was God’s plan. He provided a way for the physical, emotional, and spiritual to all come together and mingle in one amazing act. Wow! This was His gift to us. Yet somehow we’ve messed it up. I want you to experience sex exactly the way God intended it to be enjoyed. It is going to take some more work. You may need healing from the past. You may need to flush out all the distorted sexual crud that our culture has fed you. You may even need to go back to square one and start over. It’s possible that you will need help. That’s okay. Get it. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. Once your baggage from the past has been checked, you will experience sex in a way you never dreamed possible.
I say it all the time, but I believe it with all that I am: The best sex ever can only happen in the context of a Christian marriage. Don’t ever settle for less.
